HOW TO...Be a Good Guest at a Wedding

You just got the invitation in the mail.  Your friend from college/little cousin/neighbor is getting married.  Of course you're going to go.  It's at that fancy place downtown, they've hired an awesome band and it's open bar.  While you're picking out your party duds, here are few things to keep in mind so you don't drive the bride and groom (and their vendors) crazy.

1. RSVP - I know, I know, we've all done it, waited till the last minute then added a plus one.  Or, gasp, forgot altogether then had to call at the last minute.  I'm not just talking about myself am I?  They give you the little stamped envelope for a reason.  Fill it out as soon as you get it and put it in the box.  If it was only addressed to you, guess what, you don't get to bring anyone.  Put your feelings aside and remember someone's got to foot the bill for this shindig and be thankful it's not you.  Did I mention the open bar?  If the address does not include your kids, find a babysitter and consider it an adult night out.  

2. Show Up on Time - If the ceremony is at 3:00 PM get there before then.  Don't be the couple sneaking in the back of the church with the creaky door so everyone turns to look at you instead of the bride and groom.  

3.  Leave the Drama at the Door - Having a bad day? Don't like the Groom's Best Man? Seated at a table with your nemesis from high school?  Keep it to yourself.  A wedding is stressful enough so don't add to the drama by creating some of your own.  It's a celebration! Enjoy yourself, mingle, have a drink.  

4. Don't Overindulge - I know you want to party and get down but know your limits and stay well within them.  I have seen dresses ruined, injuries on the dance floor and property damage all due to out of control drunken guests.  It's embarrassing for the Bride and Groom and dangerous for the Vendors.

5. Have a Little Patience - If you're headed to a Greek Orthodox ceremony or a full Catholic Mass, make yourself comfortable.  Combine that with a receiving line and I hope you had a big breakfast.  Long lines at the bar? Last table to go through the buffet?  Chances are you'll have to wait at least once during the wedding.  Just take deep breath and remember it's not about you and everyone else is in the same boat.

So suit up, put on a smile and let's celebrate!  I'll see you there!